The Most Believable Feedback Isn’t Delivered—It’s Discovered
Most leaders think about feedback as something you deliver directly. But some of the most powerful growth moments don’t happen in formal reviews or carefully worded 1:1s.
They happen through what your team overhears—or hears secondhand.
It’s the moment someone finds out you praised their work in a room they weren’t in.
“She handled that meeting like a pro—calm, clear, and in control.”
“He led that call start to finish. The client loved him.”
“Honestly? I’d trust her with the board tomorrow.”
That kind of feedback? It sticks. Not because it was delivered directly. But because it felt real.
Why Direct Praise Often Falls Flat
You offer encouragement. You say what you appreciate. You share your belief in their potential.
And they smile. Thank you. Nod.
But deep down, they might be wondering:
Are they just being supportive? Do they say this to everyone?
Even the most well-meaning praise can feel scripted.
That’s why behavioral science offers a different path: indirect reinforcement.
The Science Behind Indirect Reinforcement
Indirect reinforcement refers to the powerful psychological effect of overhearing—or discovering—positive feedback that wasn’t intended for your ears.
It’s perceived as more authentic because it feels unfiltered. Accidental. Unforced.
And in a professional context, it serves as a quiet accelerant for growth.
Instead of hearing, “You’re ready,” they hear you told someone else they’re ready. Instead of being told they did well, they find out their name came up as a go-to.
That changes how they see themselves. And how others see them.
What Sponsorship Really Looks Like at Work
Sponsorship isn’t just big, career-defining moments. It’s the everyday choices leaders make to speak someone’s name with respect and confidence—even when they’re not in the room.
It’s casual. Ongoing. And often invisible.
And it sounds a lot like indirect reinforcement:
Giving credit in a meeting
Recommending someone in a side conversation
Mentioning their growth to a leader who listens
The message travels. The reputation builds. And the development accelerates.
3 Ways to Reinforce Belief (Without the Pep Talk)
1. Say it where it will travel.
Be strategic. Mention their contribution in cross-functional meetings. Drop a comment when your VP is in earshot. Use moments that multiply their visibility.
2. Let the repeaters do their work.
Every team has someone who passes along everything they hear. When you say something positive to them, it won’t stay quiet. Use that dynamic wisely.
3. Create rituals that spotlight progress.
Start meetings with team wins. End the week with informal shout-outs. Use these as moments to reinforce identity, not just celebrate performance.
How Great Leaders Get Noticed—and So Do Their Teams
Leaders who do this well aren’t manipulative. They’re intentional.
They understand that development isn’t just about feedback—it’s about reinforcing belief. And they use every conversation, every mention, every moment to build that belief over time.
This is exactly the kind of mindset we build in The Leadership Lab:
Practical habits that shift how leaders communicate
Subtle strategies that amplify confidence and performance
Culture-shaping behaviors that ripple across teams
Want to Lead Like This?
Imagine what would be possible if your team didn’t just perform—but believed they could lead. If they stepped into stretch moments without waiting for permission. If you didn’t need to convince them—because they’d already internalized what you see.
That kind of shift is what we build on inside The Leadership Lab—a monthly program designed for organizations that want stronger managers and smarter leadership habits at every level.
If you work with or support leaders and want to help them get sharper, faster: Explore The Leadership Lab
Frequently Asked Questions
❓What is indirect reinforcement in leadership?
Indirect reinforcement is a behavioral science concept where people internalize feedback more deeply when they overhear it—or hear about it secondhand. In leadership, it’s a powerful tool for reinforcing belief, building identity, and accelerating development without relying solely on direct feedback.
❓Why does indirect praise work better than direct praise?
Because it feels unfiltered. When someone hears you say something positive about them to someone else, it doesn’t trip the “they’re just being nice” filter. It feels real—and real sticks.
❓Is this the same as sponsorship?
It’s a form of it. While sponsorship can include advocating for someone in high-stakes moments, it also happens in everyday conversations. Speaking about someone’s strengths when they’re not in the room—especially to those with influence—is a powerful form of informal sponsorship.
❓How do I use this strategy without seeming manipulative?
Focus on truth, consistency, and tone. This isn’t about flattery—it’s about reinforcing what’s already true, in ways that help others believe it and grow into it.
❓What kind of leaders use this approach?
The ones who build confident, high-performing teams. Leaders who use indirect reinforcement and informal sponsorship well are seen as talent developers, reputation builders, and culture shapers.
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